Some Women Talk About: What Women Want?

Marco Milletti, Team GreatX

Since joining the Nation of Men a few months ago, I received so many gifts from my team and from the bigger NoM circle, that I have been thinking how to thank these great men. I thought that asking some women to tell us about them and the things they like in men would be fun and interesting to share with other men.

Here is what I heard from these wonderful women.

Children

Children are the most beautiful thing in my life. The love for my children can be stronger than any other love. You avoided a crisis in our relationship by not feeling excluded by my new, exclusive relationship with our newborn daughter. I did not realize then how much I was changing, and how much was being taken from our relationship. Things have evolved now and I realize how difficult it must have been for you. You were fantastic to patiently wait for me to come back to you.

Communication

Ask me about my day. Listen to me. Listen, laugh, and communicate with me. Look at me, see me, and listen to me. I love when you listen to me and know how to listen. I feel like a woman when you listen to me. Talk to me, talk to me and patiently listen to me. I love your attention, I love when you notice and acknowledge the little things I do, silently, for you. I love when we understand each other, talking with the eyes. I hate when I try to grab your attention and you do not listen or underestimate my necessities.

What I Find Attractive in Men

I like men's faces, their butts, the way they walk. A calm, warm, masculine voice can be very intriguing. I like when you talk to me with a calm tone of voice. I care for your compliments and your caresses. I like you when you are romantic, when you dream with me, when you are close to me while I fantasize. Even a stranger I meet on the bus can make me feel like a woman if he knows how to listen to me.

Little Things, Every Day

Be happy because I am happy. I like you when you say hi in the morning. I like when you call in the evening and tell me where you are and when you'll be at home. I feel nervous if I do not know where you are and I am here waiting for you. I like when there is complicity between us. I do not necessarily like when you do things I am jealous about, such as preparing the table or cooking dinner. But if you do it, take care of everything, to make me feel completely relaxed about it.

Love

To love me is to accept me as I am. I do not want to be judged for the things I do. I want you to trust me and let me do what I feel is right. We women are always "right" — it is a matter of love. When I feel alone, empty, a stranger, I want your eyes to tell me I am the person you love and you want me for what I am.  Do not do or say things because you think you are "honest", do them because of your love for me, and trust me even though you think I am wrong. Just as we do not judge our children because they are our children and we love them.

My Body

I am vulnerable about my exterior appearance, about my body. I do not like when you compliment me about my aspect with jokes. I like and sometimes even prefer a stranger's compliment when it is said appropriately. I like when you surprise me with your compliments. Being surprised is like feeling there is something new, novel. I appreciate constructive suggestions, for example about the way I dress, but I do not like when you joke about it. If there is something you do not like, for example my new lipstick, tell it with courtesy, and buy me another one without letting me know.

Roles, Commitment

I do not want to be a role such as mother, wife, cook, or dishwasher. Even after many years of marriage, I want you to see me as the person I am, the woman I was when we first met, not the wife or mother or some kind of role. I do not like when you do things that you "must" do. I do not feel them as sincere. I do not like your flowers when you ask me for some kind of excuse, it is as if you want to give me something to "cover your ass". The same for cheap compliments, they sound like stereotypes.

When I have a problem the first thing I do is to call you, and I expect your comments and suggestions. You must always be there when I need you to support me, it's indispensable. I do not want to feel alone when I need help, and I know it can be difficult for you to realize that I need you, but I send an SOS just like our daughter or any other person. Sometimes you realize I need you and it's too late, and I feel you do not understand me, you are not there when I need you. Do not be casual when you commit to something for me.

Sex

Sex is important. Love is outside and inside the bedroom. New things in bed help strengthen and renew the relationship. You make me feel your sexual desire with your eyes, and it usually takes only a few seconds. I love when you look at me in the right way, when you gently put your hand in my hair. I like those kisses with closed mouth, like in the movies. They are like a preliminary, and make me thirsty for what is going to follow.

Things I Like

I want to laugh, laugh, laugh with you. I want to dance with you, listen to music with you, and laugh with you. Let's laugh, let's free up, laughing together!

I like biking, I like going to the ocean and walking on the beach. You know it and I love when you propose doing something that maybe you do not specifically like doing, but you do because you know I like it.

I love surprise gifts — a haircut, or a day at a spa, or an hour of massage. It is a real gift when I come back home and find tasks I was supposed to do during that time already taken care of!

A dinner invitation is nice too, but it has to be a surprise. I love when you anticipate my desires; it means you know me very well, all the little things I care about, and my habits.